I was reviewing my calendar, and making my round yearly Dr appointment for my youngest and I realise I forgot to take my oldest for her well-check. Her birthday is in January and she always beg not to go the Dr around her birthday, so we put it off and I forgot.
I was mad at myself, that I forgot to take her for her check-up, I was beating myself up over not staying on top of things. You know all that mom guilt crap.
Then that little voice in my head asked something clever. when was the last time I went for my well-check? I did a quick search in my head trying to remember and I couldn’t!
it’s been that long and it didn’t bother me not one bit!
And that’s a problem!
I remember a few years ago, I sat in my pastor’s office crying and agonizing over the fact, I have to file for divorce. I didn’t want to, after all the bible says God hate divorce, I felt like I was going against God and he asked me a question.
My pastor said if one of the girls was married to that man, or they were in your position what you you say to them? My response was an automatic Hell nah!
Then he says, now why would you think that God your father would want you to be in that kinda relationship? are you a better parent than God?
It takes very little for me to be happy and content. I don’t need much, if it comes to getting my nails done or helping someone I choose them. If it comes down to do something for me or the girls there’s no debate. I choose them everyt time. Especially now, as a single mom, I can’t shake the feeling that they are missing out on their childhood, they are not getting enough attention or love so I overcompensate. I over sacrifice and overdo everything.
With all these overdoing, and sacrificing… Someone recently ask me are you taking good care of yourself?
I didn’t know the answer to that question, I had to sit and think about and I remember the question my pastor ask me a few years ago, I knew I need to make some changes.
It’s easy to get sucked into the demands of life and forget to take care of ourselves.
You should always ask yourself these questions:
- Would I be OK if my son or daughter was living like that? Your alarm bell should start going off pretty quickly.
- What advice would you give to your kids if they had your life?
- Would you let you kid eat that?
- Would you let your kids get taken advantage of? be underpaid? overworked?
- Would you tell your son or daugther to speak up for themselves?
Then go ahead do the same for yourself!